So what makes a man really attractive? I’m not talking about vanity here, I’m just talking about wanting to look attractive for your girlfriend, or for your wife, or just for that first date.
We all know genes play a role, right? A huge role in fact, but I’m gonna let you in on a secret: Even if you’re not blessed with the best genes in the world, there’s still a few things that you can implement to be a more attractive version of yourself.
So we’re gonna talk about seven things. Let’s not waste any more time – let’s get right into it.
1. Open body language
So what makes a guy really attractive? Well let’s start with the first one: Open and friendly body language.
It’s no good standing somewhere with arms closed, a serious facial expression, or looking down, and if you do look at girl you just quickly look at her and look down or something.
You’re making it very hard for her to to get that courage to come and talk to you. That’s on you, because you don’t look open and you don’t look friendly.
Remember, if somebody sees you for the first time they haven’t spoken to you yet. They don’t know who you are, so they make assumptions of who you are based on what? On the way you dress? Yes, but also your body language and your behavior.
So they look at you from a distance and they look at your body language, and if your body language is not open and friendly, what are they gonna think? It’s interesting to note that studies showed that men who have open and friendly body postures look a lot more attractive than those who do not.
2. Get Toned
Get in shape. You don’t necessarily have to become a bodybuilder and get buff, but just get healthy.
Get in shape so that you will not only look, but also feel a lot better. I mean people have different tastes out there, but studies from UCLA and others show that the majority of women find men who have lean muscle mass a lot more attractive than guys that are very skinny, or look too buff.
3. Give Compliments
Now you might be saying, “What? Really? Giving Compliments to people is gonna make me more attractive? Well, yes!
If you don’t understand this by now then, it’s very important for you to pay attention. People will always forget what you say to them, but they will never forget how you make them feel!
I will say it again: People will forget what you tell them, but they will never forget how you make them feel.
So, unconsciously people will find you a lot more attractive because of the way they feel when they think about you. That’s one of the reasons why people do not like selfish people, or self-absorbed people, or negative people. They don’t like it because they always talk about themselves.
Let me ask you a question: When was the last time when you gave somebody a compliment?
4. Be open and honest
If you’re open and honest, you’ll be more attractive than most of the guys out there that use those horrible pick-up lines. You know what I’m talking about!
Please don’t ever use those cheesy and corny pickup lines, like this: “Excuse me do you have a map?” and they say “no,” and your answer is “I need a map because I keep getting lost in your beautiful eyes….”
That is so bad… Here’s the thing: Women find a man with integrity attractive, a man who stands by his word and keeps his promises.
Look I’ve been a male model for over 13 years, and traveling to over 15 different countries in the world I spent a lot of time with some of the most beautiful girls in the world. I worked with them, stayed with them in apartments for two to three months at a time, really getting to know them, and this is what most of them said: They don’t really like the guy who tries to show off, puffs himself up driving the car and has a lot of money.
OK, they like the car. I mean who doesn’t like the car, but they don’t like the guy because they think he’s arrogant and he’s just a tool.
A new research study done in 20 different countries proves that your personality is more important to people than looks.
5. Put Some Effort Into How You Look and Smell
Yes, this is very basic, but still a lot of guys out there don’t do it. So clean yourself up a little bit.
Get a haircut that fits in with your face shape. Get a good skincare routine so your face looks nice and clear, and also wear the right clothes that fits in with your body type.
6. Be Well-Mannered
This is one thing that will make you will stand out immensely, because there are so many guys out there who just don’t have good manners. I mean, there’s been a lot of studies on this, and even in China studies show that people who are kind and honest were rated more attractive than other people.
And remember this: You can easily judge the character of any man by the way he treats other people who cannot do anything for him… you see what I’m saying?
7. Talk About Your Emotions
Yes, it sounds a little bit weird, and a lot of men won’t agree with me here, but let me explain it to you.
Even in my culture we’re taught that if you’re a guy to be strong, we don’t cry, we don’t bleed, you don’t show your emotions. The result being that many women out there think that we feel emotionally a lot less than they do.
But we do hurt, we bleed, we do feel emotions as well. I struggled with this for a long time.
I lost two brothers and there were a few things in my life that happened that were very hard for me to deal with, and my wife actually showed me how to open up more and how to share my emotions with her. That was something that I had to work on, and this is what I learned.
And you know, opening up my emotions did not hurt my pride or anything, it made me stronger. It made me emotionally more stable and it showed her as well that I am able to share my deep feelings with her, and it made a connection that just made our bond so much stronger.
It’s interesting that studies also showed that when men are vulnerable, women find them more desirable both emotionally and sexually. Why? Because it allows them to connect with you on a deeper level, and they cannot connect with men who are closed off and don’t want to talk about their emotions.